Hello! I posted pretty much this same
essay a year ago but am sure it will still come in handy (I hope!) So
here goes...grab a cuppa and some biccies and get ready for quite a bit
of reading!
It comes to this time of year again when people disappear off to uni and start new beginnings, especially this weekend being the one before freshers! As I am someone that has had my three years at uni and going into my final year of another course (- forever a student!!), I thought what could be better than to tell people about my experience along with advice and what to expect!
The Beginning:
When
I said I wanted to go to university I think everyone (especially my
family) were quite shocked. I have alwaysss been someone that loves
home, and although I enjoyed going to people's houses and on holidays
with others etc, home is where I'm used to. I knew I wanted to do
something different though and decided on uni. However, leading up to
going to uni, I cried and cried and cried. I thought I had made a HUGE
mistake in deciding to go and the weeks leading up to September everyone
assumed I'd last just 5minutes and be on my way home again.
Nevertheless, I did what I'd heard other people doing and what UCAS
advised, and joined a site called yougofurther
Through
this site, I could search for people at my uni, in my halls etc and
quite quickly found people. Do not get disheartened if you can't find
many / any though as I now know lots didn't..I suppose I was just lucky.
This is where I met my flatmate and now one of my best friends Zara.
She was on my course and living in my flat, so felt like I had already
made a friend before I started.
Once arriving in Leeds, I was sooo nervous! I am always so shy in front of new people but one thing I would advise is even if you're quiet, make sure you talk. People are feeling exactly the same as you, they just express it in different ways. I was quite surprised.. although I felt homesick, I didn't cry and sit in my room all of the time, and I am glad about that. I just thought what's the point...mum had told me to at least try it out until christmas else you'll never have a proper experience of it. This is true. I know people that quit way before christmas, within a month infact. People are still just getting to know one another then so there is no way you'll have a proper idea on if you'd like it or not. (Just my opinion.)
Decorating
my room with photos of people at home and things that just brought a
smile to my face definitely made me happier. Just make sure in the first
few weeks, you keep yourself busy. That is key. No one wants to be friends with
someone that just sits in their room with the door closed acting as
though they don't want any friends. People can only do so much to help. A
huge piece of advice I would give is stay strong. Just try to be
confident even if you don't feel it inside. Prop your door open so that
people can just pop their head in to say hi..this is how lots of friends
were made in my halls! Chances are, people you have met will have met
other people and this is how everyone generally gets introduced.
And if you listen to the Scott Mills show... a bottle of ketchup on the windowsill may get some of you talking as you've got something in common! ;)
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| My little room :) |
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| This was my board getting more & more full of photos during uni..but I had quite a few there to begin with to smile at :) |
Here it is broken down...
Freshers Week:
Freshers Week:
Is
just like a holiday and will be the best week of your life if you just
relax and enjoy it. Yes, you spend a lot of money, but you have fun!
(Or at least make sure you do!) You will end up spending hours getting
ready for nights out, pre-drinking and having fun and games, then going
out, getting some food on the way back home, getting to bed about 3 at
the earliest and sleeping for most of the next day...possibly fit some
shopping in to the day time and some kind of fast food / takeaway (both
of which I did far too much of!!)
I remember my brother going off to uni the year before last and him saying to me,
"isn't it awkward introducing yourself though?!" Yes and no...obviously
it's a bit forced as everyone is saying it, but you get very used to
asking and hearing, "What's your name?", "Where do you come from?" "Where are you
living?" "What are you studying?"... (If you follow me on twitter, you'll see me retweeting loads from the "Dear Freshers" and "What Students say" pages.. and that includes those familiar questions everyoneeee is being asked!)
The
main advice I would give anyone about Freshers Week is just TALK. I
tried my hardest not to be shy and to make friends although I felt so so nervous! These are the first
couple of weeks that people are making their friends and will be the
easiest weeks to do so as everyone is in the same position.
Also in freshers week, make sure you go to the fresher's fair (especially as it's something new to do with your friends!) There are soooo many freebies to be had and lots of fun. This is the place that you can join any societies that take your fancy - another way to make new friends! For these first few weeks especially, just try do everything you can fit in to your schedule, keep a big smile on your face and you'll do great! :)
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| First year freshers tops we had made! (L-R Zara my flatmate, Zainab, me, Kayla and Bev) |
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| First year freshers (L-R) Oceana, School Girls fancy dress, Gatecrasher, Halo, Chilli Whites UV night, first night out ever in Leeds! (How young do I look?!) x |
Relationships:
When
I went to university, I began a long distance relationship. This lasted
for the first year, but due to reasons not to do with me being at uni,
it ended. I then began a new relationship which was also long distance
with my current boyfriend, Liam. He was at home for a bit of the first few
months together and then moved to Manchester to start uni for himself.
Although Manchester is a lot closer to Leeds, it is still an hour away
and still what I would class as a long distance relationship. Yes, we
were lucky and saw each other a lot more than other couples I know, but
it was still every weekend, or every other weekend we saw one another.
Every
relationship takes work, but these kinds of relationships take a lot
more work. A lot of people say that long distance relationships don't
last, they certainly do if you want them to and if you try hard enough. I
am not at all saying that they're easy..infact, they're the opposite.
It's
very tough when the times you're free to call, they're busy, when
they're making new friends and are out in evenings and you just want
someone to chat to. You just need
to communicate as frequently as possible, even if this means planning
times when you're both free. Skype and MSN (as old school as it is) were
my best friends! Trust plays a huge part in this too, if you
don't 100% trust your partner, things are not going to go smoothly. But
whatever you do, please do not worry. It is just the two of you
important in your relationship and if you both want it to work, it will.
Ignore what others say
:)
Money:
As
soon as you move out, money plays a huge part in your life. It sounds
silly but I never realised quite how expensive things I took for granted
cost in the long run. I certainly didn't realise how much Mum and Dad
spend on what I think
are pretty standard things for me and my brother! Going to uni I had a
tiny bit of savings from my part time job that I was going to use
towards
treats for me..(shopping trips, alcohol, that kinda thing).
The
main thing students need to do is budget. I know so many people, who
as soon as their student loan came in, just went on a shopping spree
and it disappeared. Yes, I shopped a lot, a little too much as I have
recently realised, but I have never been in the position where I have
spent it all and not had enough for essentials! (Even though I have completely been in my overdraft the whole time.. that's another story!) I know people who maxed that out and had to get a loan / credit card etc.. BAAAD idea!
Although
in my overdraft now, (as the majority are when finishing uni), there
are ways to stop this. Many people I know had a part time job at uni,
but I didn't want this to get in the way of my social life and
university work so I chose not to do this. Make sure you look out for
any student offers, an NUS card was an essential for me as it gave soo
many discounts and is only £11 a year! 16-25 Railcards were also a must
have as it saves 1/3 off your travel, and only costs £28 (free with my
Natwest student account!) Also, when doing fancy dress nights, Primark and charity shops
become your best friend!!
University and work:
I
was quite shocked how unlike college university was. You do not have
someone telling you to do a piece of homework and bring it in the next
day. You don't have people sat pretty much guiding you along. They let
you get on with it. If you don't pass, you haven't worked hard enough.
You will only get good marks if you work hard. My university course was
an art one and so was a little different but for more academic subjects,
I would suggest taking something to record the lecture, or if you type
faster than you write, take in your laptop / notebook to make notes.
Lecturers talk fast. Make sure you ask for help if you need it. Just
remember although you are at uni to have fun, you are paying a lot of
money for an education so you want to get something worth remembering
out of it....a good grade as well as a good social life!!
Main points of advice:
- Keep records - When you move in to your accommodation, take photos of any marks / anything broken etc - places will try to charge you for all they can when you move out as most will just pay it, so you will need proof it was like that to begin with.
- Make your room homely - This is where you are living for the next year so you want to make it pretty, full of things you love and not somewhere you don't enjoy being. - I had photos everywhere, as well as a heart rug and fairy lights as these are things that made me feel right at home!
- Get blankets and cushions for your bed - You want to be cosy and will spend a lot of time in your bed..and it will probably become your sofa in your new room!
- Buy storage bits - These can be found in places such as Wilkinsons, Primark, Home Bargains and B&M bargains. They are all pretty cheap and help to de-clutter your room. I was quite lucky as I had a few drawers built in, space under my bed and a wardrobe yet me being me needed more space, and ended up buying some portable drawers for more clothes and a 4 drawer slim set that fitted snugly into my bathroom. It is definitely easier to decide what storage bits you need and what size they can be once you're there though! No point buying and then realising they don't fit.
- Buy quick to cook meals - For the first few weeks, make sure you have lots of ready meals, things that are easy to make (pot noodles!) but that fill you up. You want to be eating a good size meal so you don't end up being ill after drinking! but I promise you, you won't have time in the first few weeks to start going through the student cook books you have no doubt been given or bought whilst preparing for uni! So for this time, takeaways especially are your best friend (as well as the free domino's pizza we all get the voucher for from Fresher's fair!!)
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| Second Year at uni - (L-R) Peter Andre at Evolution, group of friends, Sailor night out, Carnage Doctors & Nurses, Evo. |
- Buy your alcohol before going out - This comes under budgeting! Although drinks at student events are dirt cheap, you will save a lot by pre-drinking with friends in someones flat. - It also helps you learn a lot about some people if you play drinking games such as 'I have never...!' (Just remember about the tidying the next day!)
- Stay smiley and friendly - Keep your bedroom door open when you want company / want to meet others. People will take the hint :)
- Meet anyone and everyone you can - You don't want to make friends with just 3 people then in two months down the line realise you don't actually get on with them as well as you thought you did...
- Go to Freshers Fairs - You get loads of free bits and bobs including Domino pizza offers as well as loads of others. This is somewhere you can normally sign up to a doctors surgery in case of any problems as well as a number of societies, another way of meeting new people.
- Actually go to lectures - You haven't paid thousands of pounds to get into debt and get nothing from it!
- As you can see in my photos, quite a few times we did something called 'Carnage.' Quite a few cities do it and basically, it's like a pub crawl. You pay for a t-shirt which is your ticket for the night..you can customise and cut it up however you like and then all you have to pay for are your drinks as all your entry fees to about 5 pubs and a club are paid for! It's a great way of meeting new people, and knowing that you only need money for drinks too!
- Make sure you wear flats if doing a pub crawl!
- Get used to taking naps!! Before uni, you think they are for old people. Whilst at uni, you realise you cannot live without them!
- Take loads of photos! You want to remember uni for the good reasons :) - memories and friendships made through uni are priceless.
- Lastly, have fun and just be yourself! - Honestly, everyone is feeling the exact same...some people just naturally hide it more than others!
Although my time at uni was tough with the actual uni course turning out to be a course I did not enjoy..health problems with my Dad back home.. massive fall outs in second year between friends and 3 of us having to move flats, I got through it! I especially enjoyed my first year, meeting such a huge variety of people and have some of the greatest friends now! Uni has definitely changed me for the better, and that I will always be glad of.
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| Year 3 (L-R) Pre-drinks in the flat, Kayla's LBD themed 21st, Pre-drinking before out for kay's 21st, out for birthday, Carnage PJ party, Carnage Beach babes xx |
Just
remember as much as you want to do well at university, don't spend
every spare minute studying. I should have taken my own advice on this
part in my last year rather than getting so so stressed and literally
being in uni 8-8 then working all night, that everyone needs to cut
loose once in a while.
Always being surrounded by uni work can drain you, but don't forget that
the studying is the main reason you are there!
If
anyone wants any tips / advice at any time, just message me at
ginab1989@hotmail.com or on twitter
and I will try to help out. I know exactly how you are feeling and just
wish I had had something like this
to tell me everything would be okay so am here if anyone needs me! And I
hope a teeny bit of this may have helped you in some way. And congrats if you managed to get through all of that!!
I am so looking forward to doing freshers all over again next week for my final ever time! This also makes me sad.. it is so true what people say that 2nd and 3rd years look forward to it more than the actual freshers ;)
Lastly, HAVE FUN!!!
